Three Secrets to Making Better Choices

We all have been at the crossroads of making a decision. Having to choose which direction to go in and being stagnated by the inability to make a decision. What holds us back from making the choice? Nine times out of ten, it’s fear of making the wrong choice. So, we take comfort in indecision and don’t make a choice at all. No decision is better than the wrong decision…Right? NO. Wrong. Indecision is a mental block that keeps you from experiencing your full potential.

However, have no worries because you can break away from indecision and make better choices! I’m going to share with you three little secrets that’ll help you.

Secret #1: There Are Only Two Choices

Once you weigh all the pros/cons and consider all the factors, making a decision boils down to two choices…Life and Death. I believe in the existence of a supreme being. For me that being is God. For you it maybe someone or something else, but at the end of the day most can agree there is something bigger than us. In Deuteronomy 30:19, Moses challenges the children of Israel to choose life and experience God’s blessings. In choosing life, Israel is choosing to love God and trust His guidance toward blessings. To choose death, they’re rejecting God and his guidance. Daily, in each new situation, we too are faced with these two choices of life and death. The decision we make will determine whether we will experience blessings or misfortune not only for ourselves, but for future generations.

Secret #2: Ditch False Beliefs and Values

Our beliefs and values are learned through our experiences, environments, and educations. Unfortunately, our beliefs and values can be false and cause us to make bad choices. Words and thoughts are very powerful and shape what we believe and value. There was a time in my life when I allowed negative words and thoughts to influence me. These words and thoughts impacted my self-worth and value. I was sabotaging my own self which kept me from making good decisions and reaching my fullest potential.

Secret #3: You’re A Spiritual Being

One of my favorite quotes by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin is “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” Our mind is a battlefield and renewing it is a daily task. To renew means to return to a former state. As humans made in the likeness of God’s image, our original state is innately spiritual. I believe when we allow our inward spirit or light to guide, we will make better choices.

I hope you have found my three little secrets helpful! Understanding and applying these secrets has definitely benefited me in making better choices. To learn more about my story and how I reached this point in my life, visit Our Stories His Glory to purchase my book compilation. I co-authored this book with powerful ladies and gentleman who share their stories of victory!

Tonya Cross — Co-Author, Our Stories His Glory

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